Choosing between two suitors can be a very difficult task. It’s like being stuck in a love triangle and you don’t know how to get out because no matter what you do, someone gets hurt. Unfortunately you are going to have to hurt someone that you care about by letting him go and that really sucks. If you need a bit of help on how to choose between two guys, here’s a couple of good ways to clarify that whirlwind of emotions going through your mind.
DETERMINE THE QUALITIES OF EACH GUY
One of the best tips on how to choose between two guys is to determine what you want in a partner. Make a list and write down qualities that you think makes a good partner. Although we all have a unique criteria when choosing a guy, there are certain qualities that a good guy should have. Qualities like loyalty, kindness, compassion and helpfulness are must-haves. Think about which guy actually the quality that you are looking for in a long-term partner has.
HOW COMPATIBLE ARE YOU?
Figure out who are you most compatible with when it comes to important factors like lifestyle choices, personalities, career goals, finances and the number of children you want to have. Now number each one of these things in order of importance. This list will serve as a roadmap and it will help lead you to the guy that is the best fit for you.
COMPARE THE TWO SUITORS
It’s time to be analytical and compare the two guys trying to win your heart. Write down the name of each guy next to the item that you have on your lists if he matches it. Weigh the importance of each item as you go. It will become a bit more clear which guy is better suited for you because he will match up with a lot of the things that you are looking for in a relationship and in a guy in general.
CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS
Think about how you feel when you are around each guy. Which one do you enjoy being with the most? Ask yourself questions like which guy do you have more fun with? Which guy is more loving towards you? Which guy are you more sexually attracted to? Which guy causes that weak in the knees feeling and gives you butterflies when you are around him?
HOW DOES HE HANDLE REAL LIFE?
Think about how each guy handles real life situations. For example, how do they handle a bad day? How do they deal with unexpected challenges in life? Is he the type that will learn from his mistakes or refuse to admit he is ever wrong? Which guy is most likely to be with you through the ups and downs of life?
DON’T ASK OTHERS
You might think that asking your friends’ opinions on the issue will help you decide, but it won’t. They don’t know the guys like you know them, and they can’t tell what you’re feeling in your heart. As difficult as it is, you’re the only one who can make this decision.
WHICH ONE HAS POTENTIAL?
Which guy do you think has a good future in front of him? If one refuses to work, but the other is headed toward a stable career, you should think about what it says about them. You want someone who is responsible, don’t you?
WHAT DO THEY WANT?
If you never want to have kids, but one of the guys is set on having a huge family, then he’s not the right one for you. Unless one of you is willing to adjust your future lifestyles to make the other happy, the relationship will never work. You should choose the guy who wants the same type of future as you do.
You don’t have to have all of the same interests, but you want to have a few things in common. If you don’t, then how will you ever pick a movie or a restaurant that you both love? Think about which guy you’ll have more exciting dates with.
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